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“A true relationship is two imperfect people refusing to give up on each other”

Relationships can be defined in many ways, but one thing is for sure, we want to enjoy each other’s company, enjoy our own lives within the relationship, and for the relationship to have meaning with positive outcomes. But how do we define a romantic relationship when we find ourselves entering into one? How do we develop a relationship with the depth and love we are so passionately looking for and wanting to experience? The first step is to admit that this – the relationship – is what you want; you’ve been hardwired for this from birth. The second step is to have a good look at yourself to discover how you define yourself and any limiting beliefs that aren’t going to add to the beauty and growth of the relationship.

All relationships require some sort of depth to succeed, and none more so than the romantic relationship. We can think we have depth and actually have none or we can search within ourselves for the depth we actually are and bring that depth to the table of love to be feasted upon. Without the depth of self, love is nothing but a thought and shallow in its expression; how can a relationship endure any hardship within that shallowness – it can’t and won’t. But it is during these hardships that depth can be discovered and the relationship exhumed from the ashes and reignited.

The only way a deep sense of love can be presented within a relationship is for each person to discover their own depth and understanding of themselves, which takes a bit of effort, a time of separation and aloneness; to use this time of aloneness and rediscover the self that actually exists, in contrast to the mask-wearing self. The ‘mask-wearer’ will always hide their depth behind a wall of fear. At some stage the mask has to be wrenched off if that person is to live in all honesty and without fear; the expression of love will come easier and more intimate as love recognizes itself within.

“Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It is for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It is for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough”

Within a successful relationship, one or both persons will have developed a sense of self that is confident, welcoming and open to discovering change; it only needs one to make the change which has a flow-on effect to the other. The relationship becomes dynamic, purposeful with positive outcomes but not without its trials, which are normal and provide the opportunity for growth and change. Mutual respect for the time given to self-reflection is honoured; knowing full well that this time of separation and distance is fleeting in comparison to the quality time spent together. The depth in which we understand and love ourselves will be the benchmark in which the relationship will experience the freedom and passion of love.

Finally, here’s something to think about, contemplate and understand: the freedom experienced within a relationship is a gift it can only give to itself. Freedom is a gift not experienced by many in relationships these days; the freedom experienced within each person, as a part of their internal confidence and self-reliance, will be only one of the gifts of love to the other. In the final analysis of a successful relationship, it rests upon each person discovering their own individual way of expressing the love that they are and offering it as a unique gift at the banquet table of the relationship; know thyself is bottom line.

Love

Love is the being in each of us which in turn produces feelings of joy, happiness, togetherness, intimacy, abundance, and trust. Having an awareness of being love promotes healthy trust, forgiveness, mutual respect, and interdependence (as opposed to co-dependence), which is far more productive and honouring toward each other – enabling each partner to be their authentic, loving, transparent and creative self within the relationship.

The awareness of being love with each other promotes, quite naturally, the ability to be love for each other when the going gets tough. The ability to serve and nurture becomes the dominant focus without interfering with the others journey of life and independence.

The Truth of being love is that it is enduring and can never fail.

4 Hacks to Increase the Depth of Meditation and get the Results

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Introduction

Those of us that have started a practice of meditation have probably experienced this: we earnestly restart a meditation practice when we perceive we begin to suffer whilst going through some sort of turmoil. We fall back into a trusted experience – hopefully! Eventually we breathe a sigh of relief when we move through that which is bothering us and – forget to practice because life begins to beckon us back to a run of thoughts again! We know – don’t we – we’ve lost our focus! We all have these times.

Years ago, when I first started meditation, I found it the hardest thing to do – to stop thought. But then I realized that none of us can stop it; the brain is there to process thoughts and there’s no way you can stop it from doing its job. I soon learned from my teacher that all we can do is learn to ‘observe’ them without any emotion or judgment attached. You see, I learned that the mind is NOT the brain – but is has a symbiotic relationship with it.

If you take the time to think about it, the mind isn’t physical; it is intangible or can’t be seen. But here’s the interesting point, the you that you are is the mind. When you are looking through your eyes – it is you – the mind – making use of the physical function of sight.

The fact is, just like learning to play an instrument, it takes practice. During the beginning stages of a meditation practice, you will without doubt find it hard – but anything worth experiencing is worth putting the work in to make it happen; in this case it’s a no brainer! Here’s a little hint: practice meditation until you can break the 30 minute barrier. And by this I mean that you should work toward being the observer for as long as you can until you break 30 minutes. Remember: the observer doesn’t think! It just observes! Once you’ve broken the 30 minute barrier, watch what happens when you break through an hour. If you don’t think you have the time then ask yourself this question: “Do I want a day that’s going to be relatively easy or do I want my day to be shambolic?”

IF you are using meditation as a tool to feel good – you’ve missed the point of it and you will just come back to the default setting before you started. You must learn to be the observer first up.

4 tips to help you shift into a higher gear of meditation:

1)      Use a Journal

This may sound a bit crazy, but yes, you can step out of a meditation to write down an idea you have received. Again, if you think about it, it’s just like observing a thought and deciding whether to entertain it or not, putting it aside to go back into practice being the observer within the meditation. Or you can write down your experience after.

The reason I say keep a meditation journal is really quite simple.

  1. If you have difficulty meditating, you can use the journal to remind you of the previous experience. Use it as a motivational tool.
  2. You may want to continue meditating and enlarging the idea you received in a previous meditation. This may be to aide you in business decisions or for whatever you are going through in your day to day life experience.
  3. You can use the journal to write down questions you wish to ask your ‘self’. This is an interesting part of meditation. If you are ever stuck in an experience during the normal run of the day, you can receive the answer. And you will know it is the correct answer by the way your physical self feels; there will be no question about it, in which case you need to action it as quickly and as practically as possible. If you feel fear at any stage, go back to the mind in meditation and sort it out. Ask questions.

These are the three main reasons but there are probably more you can think of. It’s up to you as an individual to use your journal for whatever you wish. I can’t impress it strongly enough, though, to have a journal and use it often.

2)      Break through the timer

Whether you’re in the habit of using a timer or not, each time you meditate, try to extend it in length of time; the benefits are enormous. If you’re new to meditation you may have difficulty maintaining focus over a long period but this is what meditation is all about; you are flexing and strengthening the mind muscle which will have greater results for you in life the more often you practice. Start with 5 minutes then reach to 10 and keep adding another 5 minutes each time you meditate; the task is then simple.

3)      Feel free to experiment and ask your ‘self’ questions

One of the greatest things about meditation is that it is ‘open-minded’; this means that you can quite literally go anywhere and do anything within it, which makes it interesting and fun. You have your own ‘gps’ or guidance system; as you meditate and find yourself in that relaxed state, ask yourself a question (it could be anything – from a simple task to a challenge you are attempting to complete), and then let it go. ‘Put it out there’ in other words. There is no doubt the answer will come to you and in most cases when you’re least expecting it. Again, you will know it’s the answer because it will hit you fairly quickly and it will just come out of nowhere without any emotion attached. Either as a fun experiment or in a moment of seriousness – just do it!

4)      Small meditation breaks

During the course of the day whether busy or not, I pull myself aside and meditate for 5 to 10 minutes (but often that 5 to ten minutes may get extended to 30 minutes). Essentially, you are giving your brain a break and reconnecting with your ‘self’ (the mind). Just as food is for the body, meditation is another way of recharging your system. You could even just do a breathing meditation for as long as it takes to make and have a coffee.

How quickly will I see results?

This is completely dependent upon how often you meditate; realistically you would not want to take any days off, remember you are attempting to create another positive habit here.

In most cases the most profound changes don’t take place during meditation at all; you will notice the changes in your experience of everyday life. Outside of meditation, you will need to be more ‘mindful’ which means that you are focused on what you are doing ‘within the present moment’; this is a natural state of mind gained from meditation. Mindfulness is really a meditation while you are doing your everyday stuff, with your eyes open. The practice of meditation, then, ekes into your life consequently becoming a quality of your new life-style.

The results of meditation will come through as ideas, pictures in the imagination, physical balance and grounding (you will physically and emotionally feel balanced). These are only some of the ways in which you see the results. Another is the feeling of inspiration; you will be and feel inspired to complete something or start something new; it could be anything but when this happens, don’t question it just do it. If it is good and wholesome for yourself and others and there is no way you can get it out of your head…make preparations and do it. Again, if there are more questions you need to ask before the ‘doing’ go inside first or you may want to discuss it with others who have a solid meditation practice.

Whether you are new or an old hand at meditation, never give up the time and opportunity for even a 10 minute meditation break. You will feel and experience the results as long as you commit and put your time and effort into a consistent meditation practice.

The Nature of Life and Meditation

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“Life is when we exist to observe and enjoy the beauties of nature; meditation is when we observe the beauties of the observer”

If we are at all serious about the wholeness of life, and by that I mean by not reducing it with philosophy, a religion or by being stuck within the knowledge of what we think we know – and by knowledge I mean everything that appears to be ‘logical’ or brain centered – if we are at all serious about living life observing and enjoying the beauty of nature and ourselves, entering within it, understanding it without drawing a conclusion upon any part of it including the color of skin, race or creed, monetary status, etc, – for nature and life itself doesn’t make a distinction between any of this –  if we are at all serious about the life we desire to live, and the wholeness it provides outside of all the fads, being tossed from pillar to post trying to look as good as anyone else, or trying to live within a mask of happiness and contentment – and by that I mean when we present ourselves as one thing in society but are another in the privacy of our homes – if we are at all serious about living our own lives in all truth, honesty and integrity, we’d be more concerned with our own actions, our own ways of thinking and our own ways of living the life we are gifted with.

To understand life one must, at the very least, attempt to understand self or the one living it; to observe our own actions, our own ways of thinking, our own feelings, and emotions which will eventually bring us to ask more questions of ourselves; to ask those questions within ourselves and – listen very carefully. This, of course, is the meditation that will enhance our lives; to become self-aware and conscious of what makes us tick. But that’s just the beginning because when we observe the self we currently are, we may begin to either like or dislike what we see. We can then become trapped within our own judgments upon ourselves either good or bad, but it makes no difference; none of what we observe is the silence, the enlightenment, the intelligence and motivation of what we really are; what we are observing is the subject and not the observer. And this is the nature of meditation; to live and experience being the observer of life; emotions, thoughts, and actions – to enter into a higher understanding and the higher intelligence of mind and heart.

My recent experiences within the meditations of my ‘self’ have led me to a query of the observer and the self being observed. I became aware of a quote I had read a few years ago as it came back to my memory as if to be a reminder and a pointer directing me to another depth, stripping away another layer of belief and fantasy.

 “The observer is observed” – Krishnamurti

Again, being an avid participant of meditation and using it to open up the mind within which there is a type of intelligence all of its own (unique, knowing and understanding itself) – and to be honest a type of madness to those who have not experienced it – the above quote made a lot of sense. To try to understand it with intellect alone is quite difficult – everyone knows that the observer and the observed need to be separate otherwise it cannot work. It works hand in hand with another quote, which comes to mind while I write, “An eye is not an eye because you see it; it is an eye because it sees you”. A beautiful understanding of meditation if there ever was; as you enter into the experience of meditation and observe yourself, physically, mentally and emotionally,  you soon become aware of something else looking back at you. This takes a bit of focus but that is what meditation is all about; to learn to focus an otherwise unruly mind, wasting itself upon the past and future that don’t exist and bringing it into the present moment, which is the only point in time that does exist. In the initial stages of learning to meditate, you are, or become aware, or have the perception, that you (in your physical-ness) are observing yourself, and you become comfortable with that. As you progress, you will become aware that not only are you observing yourself but that you are actually ‘the observer’; there is a definite distinction between the two in which the observer cannot be ‘the observed’ – you have rediscovered a hidden part of you that holds a lot of motivation and profound wisdom but, also, it is quiet but powerful in its silence; you experience a higher intelligence coming from your depth.

And yet again, as your experience in meditation increases and your mind becomes more focused, another progression is realized; within that progression, you become conscious and very aware that your mind is not what you initially understood it to be – the progressions of meditation and the will to focus begins to present to you that you really are your mind (the observer) unfettered by the demands (the perceived needs and wants) of the body. You begin to initiate an understanding that you are now experiencing yourself as you once were before the influx of error-ridden education and misunderstanding of the life experiences you have survived up until now. All the trauma and negative experiences make sense with the mind intelligently making use of that knowledge – this is but an initial rebirthing of your ‘self’; in a sense, it is an experience of a new ‘you’, but in reality, it is the return home – to the real you, the unconditioned mind.

As if that wasn’t enough already, there is yet another progression. Which brings me back to the quote at the top of the page “Life is when we exist to observe and enjoy the beauties of nature; meditation is when we observe the beauties of the observer”. This progression is sometimes seen as the final one, whilst still living in your body – the one in which you receive an understanding that even though you are the observer but you, as the observer, are also being observed. Life becomes the meditation and meditation ceases to exist; it is superfluous and unnecessary.

Within this progression, the mind you are experiencing dissolves into nothingness; you become life and life lives through you, unhindered and unfettered by the desire to reason with it; you trust it profoundly because you are the trust of yourself. You cease to want and try to explain your experience of it; you are it and that’s all that matters because nothing matters. The experience of love, for example, is unspeakable and a return to the ‘old ways’ is not on the table for negotiation – you attract that which you now are and settle for nothing less. Silence becomes the teacher, as the teacher becomes silent. The experience of being the creation and the creator itself; you are one with it all.

There is a scripture from the bible which is a favorite of mine that makes so much sense of this phase or progression, please read it and understand the profound truth hidden within it.

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love,

I have become a sounding brass or a clanging cymbal.

And though I have the gift of prophecy,

And understand all mysteries and all knowledge,

And though I have all faith, so that I could move mountains,

But have not love,

I am nothing.

And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor,

And though I give my body to be burned,

But have not love

It profits me nothing.

Love suffers long and is kind;

Love does not envy;

Love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

Does not behave rudely, does not seek its own,

Is not provoked, thinks no evil;

Does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the Truth;

Bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails.

Try as hard as you might, the explanation of it all becomes an arduous task; it seems the language you speak is not intelligent to those who want to understand it or want to understand you. The language you speak is of your heart and soul and understood by, maybe, the few who have taken the time to understand their selves, but know this well, you will be misunderstood by many. It is within these times you know there will be a time for silence and a time for speech but you will be measured upon your action; your life will be the explanation and only the fewest of words necessary if any at all. You, the love you are, will never fail you even as it recognizes itself in another. Resilience is one thing, but endurance – yes, endurance – is your best ally whilst experiencing this phase of the meditation of life. It becomes you – and it becomes easier.

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Mindfulness – The Placebo that Isn’t

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I was recently involved in a discussion that took a turn into something in which I was being judged for what I know within myself to be a ‘truth’ about life and, in fact, about my existence and purpose for being here. A fair bit of my life has been in the search for something that religion had taught me was only for a select few, and couldn’t really believe in. During this search, I have discovered many things but the most beneficial has been the processes and practice of mindfulness and meditation and the benefits of them psychologically, spiritually and physically. The unfortunate transition that has taken place in the western world is that Mindfulness has been used as a placebo in the treatment for a lot of mental and physical issues, and although I believe this is a great thing because all scientific evidence is proving beyond any doubt that it works, it still remains a placebo.

When I come back to the discussion that took place, I felt as if I was being harshly judged for even trying to discover ‘truth’ in whatever form it may take and had to prove and disclose a valid reason for doing so, but there’s an upside to this; after sitting down and replaying the discussion, I realized the proof and valid reason was myself and there was no point in even trying to supply what the other person was asking for or even remain connected to the sense of doubt that the discussion provided, even for a very short period of time. Which brings me to another point: the doubt provided me with the knowledge that I knew my ‘self’ well with the proof and validity not being necessary – and there was and is no doubt about that!

So, I asked my ‘self’ “Why go to the trouble of writing this?” Because I have become aware and concerned that the term ‘Mindfulness” and the practice of meditation to discover the truth about ones ‘self’ has been subverted and downplayed by those who wish to keep the reality of mindfulness to a minimum, and make no mistake, there are those out there who see it within themselves to do just that. You see, the other person’s understanding of mindfulness was limited but only due to what has been taught by those who know nothing or extremely little about it in the first place or….have only used it as a band-aid/placebo, and I feel for this person; the point of meditation and mindfulness has been missed by a country mile.

Mindfulness and the meditations that bring about a state of peace and calm are not about the healings it can bring; the healings are a fantastic by-product but they are not, should not and, in fact, never have been the focus of meditation and mindfulness in their purity. Don’t get me wrong, if that’s all you are looking for then that’s all you will get and if that makes you happy, then knock yourself out, it’s ok; you are experiencing the effect. But mindfulness and the meditations practiced within it have the effect of taking you further into yourself so the placebo effect ceases to exist; you learn to become the thing that is doing the healing; your confidence and knowledge about your ‘self’ become true and effective; you become the cause of the effect, and so the healings are permanent.

Now, I’m wondering, isn’t that the truth of ‘self’ anyone wants to get to know and become? Yes, truth is something to search for if you know where to look and you are passionate enough about it;  it exists inside you and you realize there is no other place to look.

Then, again, I wander back to the discussion that took place, and the question of ‘energy’ was raised. I know that in the greater scheme of things that this is yet another ‘truth’ of self that can be discovered using the correct teachings of mindfulness and the meditations used to bring about a state of ‘oneness’ and harmony with life. How do I know? I experience it daily…and, for the sake of those desiring it, it is proven scientifically! The question of ‘being energy’ and becoming one with it has been a point of discussion for centuries but during this discussion, I became aware of being ridiculed behind the not so hidden smirk. But like I mentioned, it wasn’t until after I replayed the discussion later that I became aware of any of this. Why was I the target of such hidden ridicule? Because I teach it, I believe it; actually, more than anything, I understand it and live it, and because I do, I don’t live life the way other’s think I should do and therefore become something and someone they don’t fully understand but that’s only because they don’t take the same amount of time I enjoy, in getting to know another person – without judgment – and they haven’t spent the time to stop and understand their selves either.

So let’s have a look at energy. Energy is in everything, of everything, and in one place and everywhere at the same time; it is everything. The earth is full of it, animals live it, it is in plants, insects, rocks, sand, water, the stars, the moon, the universe, music, the human body…you…and I could go on forever more. Where is the scientific proof of this? Quantum physics is one obvious proof, and even engineering uses it, another is David Attenborough’s many videos on the earth, evolution, and animals, etc, and yet another is Albert Einstein with his famous E=MC2, oh for goodness sake, do I really have to spell it out? Without the energy of life, nothing would or could possibly exist. The problem that exists within humanity is that it thinks it is above that which created it – the energy of life. But I can tell you it is alive and well, thank you very much, and even though it can do without us, we cannot ‘do’ without it. This would suggest that the energy is intelligent; that it can make decisions and think. And it sure does! It does it through us – its creations!

But what is my message within all this? Well, its about the use and understanding of mindfulness. Mindfulness is all about discovering the mind, the cause of your life and the ability to experience your life within your own authenticity and uniqueness without being affected by the chastisement or judgment for being your difference within a world hell-bent on making you ‘normal’ or having to fit into someone else’s perception of what you should or shouldn’t be. My annoyance at being judged so unjustly is tempered by the fact that this person is also trapped within an error-ridden concept of mindfulness. And that is sad…really sad. But here’s the thing and it’s even sadder; so many others in this world today are also trapped within this limited concept of Mindfulness and consequently trapped within the world of normality that they have forgotten what and who they really are and now can’t express themselves in all honesty for fear of breaching ‘political correctness’  and all the other rules now in place to stop the freedom of speech, or more correctly, the freedom of expression.

Yep, mindfulness gives us the ability to be mindful of our words or how we express our selves to one another, yes mindfulness allows us to be in the present moment; that in itself is a fantastic thing to experience in a world of hustle, bustle, and stress. But don’t forget that mindfulness is about discovering the truth about self; discovering the energy that creates you every day without a worry in the world; it is the vehicle assisting you to discover you. If that isn’t something worth searching for, I don’t know what is – but then again – who am I?

 

Enlightenment: a degree of Perception

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Introduction

The energy of creation; that which creates everything we see as a solid thing or has taken form of some ‘thing’ or another including everything we can’t see, is pure, raw, focused and extremely intelligent; we have labeled it God, Source, Universe and a myriad of other names but all fall short of the true nature of it. It must be explained, though, that its intelligence is not that which we can understand unless our focused attention is put upon it. It rests upon a degree of perception.

Humanity, with the proper use of its body and mind is the extension of that pure, raw, focused and extreme intelligence. The issues of this world we live in; the wars, politics, religion, family issues, mental and physical sickness are a direct result of humanity forgetting and walking away from the very thing that created and gave it life in the first place; we have replaced an enlightened life with things of a spiritual nature simply because we now lack the truth and understanding of life itself; and yet it is clearly visible for all to see.

Enlightenment is not spiritual

The difference between a spiritual life, and the almost mindless and endless journey it involves, and a life enhanced by enlightenment is one in which the slightest change in a degree of perception will make the difference. The journey ceases in an instant and enlightenment takes its natural place within the human body; a life changes to one of peace, joy, eternal love, and creativity; focused and purposeful, our lives become one with creation and the energy that created it; humanity will eventually come back to discover its origin. This is not to say, though, that a spiritual life is incorrect; spirituality is the search for enlightenment but to believe that spirituality is the truth is the error and the same applies to religion. Spirituality is nothing but another degree of perception which can lead you to enlightenment or, because of an ego driven mind, may remain in the endless journey of spiritual discoveries that have no real meaning or life application at all. The most common expression I hear within spiritual circles is “I am God”, but within an enlightened life, God ceases to exist as you become one with it; in many cases, this process humbles the ego which it may like or not. As a person discovers enlightenment, the ego ceases to exist in its present form; a transmutation occurs as and when that person lets go of what they believe to be true.

The ‘presence’ of enlightenment is not as spiritual as one may think. It includes and involves the recognition of the physical body including the brain and the heart, and recognition of the mind and the discovery of what the mind actually is; the mind being the most misrepresented parts of the human physical system in most resent years.

The Mind

The mind, as currently taught by many, is that part of us that thinks, but this is where things go incredibly awry. Here is the first change of perception and possibly the most important! The mind does not think…it observes thought without any involvement with the thoughts at all. It also doesn’t feel anything; again, it only observes thought and feeling. The brain is there to create thoughts and the heart is there to create feelings felt within the body. The best description of the mind I have ever heard is “The mind is the energy that creates and manifests everything the body thinks, feels and believes to be true to about itself and to itself”. If you can visualize the human body as the lens of a magnifying glass and the mind as the ‘thing’ focusing it, as the suns energy passing through it, the mind focuses the body to create a flame using the energy of the sun; the more the magnifying glass (human body) is focused by the use of its mind the better the result, otherwise the suns energy is always out of focus and the result takes far longer to manifest, if at all.

This brings into question then, “What is the human mind?” It is that part of us that has always been one with the energy that creates all we see as form and solid; it is the focused energy I spoke about in the introduction; it is the pure, raw, focused and extremely intelligent energy that is outside of us, but condensing within the human body, giving it life. It is moving through us all the time; we are not it (that’s the ego making its self important) but it is us! That’s the same as the spiritual paradox which states “Man is not God; God is man”. Biblically, as Jesus stated “I am one with the Father and the Father is one with me”.

But just as the perception of Oneness applies to the energy that created ‘it all’, the same applies to the human body, all of its components and the mind that directs it. If we can’t bring it all together within ourselves then we suffer badly either physically and/or psychologically. I will repeat what I have stated “The first change of perception must be in relation to what we perceive the mind actually is”. How to change the perception of the mind requires a bit of reeducation and the practice of using it as it was meant to be used. The mind screams at us, at times, to allow it to come back home to what it actually is and this creates emotional and physical dysfunction. We are humans; living in frail bodies with an unlimited intelligence we have not experienced for thousands of years; the mind is one with that intelligence if only you could let go of what you believe. You will either allow yourself to experience it now (or in the present moment) or you will discover it while taking your last breath. Which is it to be?

It is a Challenge or a Calling?

That last statement was not meant to put fear into you; but it is more of a challenge. The challenge is this: “Will you live life to its fullest now, or will you wait until you have no choice?” I can say this with experience; you stand so much more to gain by losing all that you believe to be true. Most of what you lose you didn’t need anyway, but you will discover that what you retain will be expanded upon to such an extent that it takes on a completely different form of intelligence living within the brain. Life then becomes something to look forward to living; your physical body, brain and heart are now working in unison with the intelligence of creation; you have become enlightened. It isn’t as spiritual as you may have thought; it’s just a change of perception, with your mind now back where it wants to be; one and at peace with itself; it is calling you back!

What does that mean for you, living a real life in a real world? Complete freedom from and/or ease of emotional disturbances that are pulling you back into a life you don’t desire to live. In short, you reinvent your whole life; excitement to be alive, with the entire creativeness that you are, takes a definite hold. If you have a business or in a relationship that is suffering, you will breathe the life back into them that you experienced when you first created them; or you may be physically suffering some sort of ailment hindering the enjoyment of life and that too can be healed. It’s really not as spiritual as you may think and certainly not as inaccessible as you may have been experiencing. “Will you learn to live life to its fullest now, or will you wait until you have no choice?” “To be or not to be that is the question” (thanks William), what’s your choice?

I do understand how all of this works and you may be feeling the call to discover more about yourself and enjoying an enlightened life, if this is the case please feel free to contact me on 0474 570 063 or email me at tonykanecounselling@gmail.com.

Self Awareness

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The Body

Self Awareness is not something that comes without a bit of work but you can begin to be aware relatively quickly. The starting point, of course is to begin to be aware of your ‘self’. Throughout history, there have been so many teachers and sages pointing to a separate ‘me’ which is permanent and more real than the ‘me’ that is perceived as being the body, including the thoughts and feelings being experienced within the physical body.

Try this and you will see what I mean:

  • Go to a mirror and observe your body for a few minutes.
  • While you are observing your body, look into the eyes of your image in the mirror
  • Now ask yourself (either quietly or aloud) “Is this my body?”
  • Now, who asked the question? Your body or something else that exists within your body?
  • Who or what is observing your body? Who is the observer and what is being observed?

This would suggest that at the moment the question was asked, whatever owns the body is not the body. And the body is not a permanent entity; it changes over a period of time and finally ‘gives up the ghost’.

Thoughts and Feelings

What about thoughts and feelings; aren’t they the ‘me’ or ‘I’? They may seem that way; in fact they may seem more ‘me’ than the body; but the truth of the matter is that thoughts and feelings come and go just like the body, and most of them are not our own or not under our control. The ego is affected by these thoughts and feelings, but the thoughts and feelings are a process of the brain and essentially not solid or real; they have no form. If thoughts and feelings are not real, then it would suggest that the ego is not a ‘thing’ in and of itself; it cannot be destroyed nor should it be considered for destruction.

The identification with thought, feelings and body is the issue that keeps us from being aware of the real self. When you become aware of the silence between thoughts; focusing on the silence, you will become aware of awareness itself; you will become aware of your real self. If you have been able to experience the ‘Mirror Image’ process above, you will have begun a process of ‘consciousness’ or awakening.

The Self that is No Thing

After experiencing the above process a few times, you will, hopefully, get a sense of being an observer; observing your body (physical) and, with a bit of focus off your mind, observing your thoughts and feelings (mental); almost as if they are not the ‘you’ you thought you were; but you are living in a body that looks the way it does and it experiences thoughts and feelings that can be observed but not have to be entertained or argue with.

The observer is what I call the ‘Natural State’. For you, enlightenment may only go as far as this level of consciousness, but there is more yet. As I understand it, if you have experienced separation from your body and thoughts, you are experiencing your Natural State otherwise known as your Ego free from external influences; some know this as spirit or essence of self. This is the way you were born before you were taught to think and allowed your thoughts to take you away from your essence. It has no form but lives within one (your body); it has no identification with anything apart from itself. It is no ‘thing’ but it is the real you.

Once awareness and consciousness is activated within a person the realization that all things are a part of the aware self and not separate from it becomes very apparent; in fact the aware self is the creation of all things but knows it is not creation itself. To intellectually understand this, it has to become a discovery via experience only. No words and no thought can adequately explain any of it.

But Wait! There’s More!

The more you step back and discover space or silence, the more conscious of consciousness you become aware of; you become consciousness itself. Consciousness itself is that energy we have inadequately called God. God, from my point of view, is Creation itself. It needs to be understood, if you haven’t understood it yet, that God is an energy that pervades everything that exists, has existed, and is yet to exist, which includes yourself. God/Creation is moving through you right now and is conscious of all your thoughts and feelings, actions and reactions. So apart from stepping back from your body, thoughts and feelings, you can step back from your ‘Natural State’ and become aware of the power of consciousness and creation that you are. Once completed, you come to the realization that because you are creation, there is no need to concern yourself with the issues that are outside of yourself that create anxiety, depression, illness and dis-ease within the body. They are there but cease to exist within you.

Creation is your right

You can then begin to create your life the way you have always dreamt. Your dreams have always been the indication of what and who you actually are. You have probably been chasing them; some have been created but then again maybe not. As you begin to become conscious and aware that you are creation, you will discover the understanding and knowledge that you are the dream right now. You begin to create your desires as if they were actually happening in the present moment. For most people this in itself is a dream; that is because they have not been able to step back from themselves to discover what they rightfully are. Most get disheartened and give up living a life of ‘boring normality’. If this is you, you need to know that you have as many chances to begin the process of creation any time you want. Right now is a great time! Never give up!

It doesn’t stop

As you become aware of your very powerful self, you will also discover your authenticity. You will become what you are and who you are; your ego will happily portray to the outside world that which you know is the real you, without any care or hang ups about what others think. You exit the ‘matrix’ and enter reality, affecting the world around you in extremely positive ways. You will become fully aware that the world and everything in it, including other people around you are connected to you through creation; you become one with creation and the rest of creation becomes one with you; no separation at all.

Relationships begin to heal

During my counseling with couples, I have taught couples to be aware and conscious of themselves and not necessarily too much of each other; this brings each partner into an awareness of themselves as creation and love; the two major foundations of all relationships. I have witnessed the relationship itself take on new life as each step of awareness comes into being within each partner. As each step is followed, new life begins to pour from each partner to each other. Healing within each partner takes place and therefore the relationship follows the healing. Not only does the relationship heal, but if there are any children involved, they too become participants and are healed of any damage created by the dysfunctional relationship. The partners become one with creation and each other, simply because they now know they are one and always have been; no separation! Rather than being ‘in love’ with each other, you are fully aware that you ‘are love’ with each other.

I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this and have been able to remind yourself of the creation that you are. Your perfection, your life and all that is available to you can only be found within; have fun with the ‘Mirror Image’ process and discover yourself. You may be interested in The Happiness Project (click on link) in which all the above is taught and in which the participants, very easily, learn to become aware and conscious of themselves as creation. I leave you with a little poem written by Kalu Rinpoche:

“We live in illusion and the appearance of things.

There is a reality, we are that reality.

When you understand this, you will see “you” are nothing.

And, being nothing, you are everything.